(Dedicated to those who have gone through or are going through Divorce)
The Wedding Ceremony. Exchanges of Words – Vows recited between Bride and Groom among listening ears of witnesses made up of family and friends. Two lives becoming one under the Covenant of God in legal matrimony. Marriage – One day at a time…One week at a time…One year…after year…at a time.
Children are born as new lives continue to make the union of marriage more complete in the Making of a Family.
Trouble Comes – conflict – career – child care concerns…You know, daily life… while time passes. Give and take. Take and give. Love grows – Love takes a leave of absence. Eyes wander and the marriage commitment of one to another becomes threatened. Enter in addiction – alcohol, drugs, pornography, gambling… whatever it is – none of it is good. It depletes a relationship between a man and a woman until it deletes it totally. What God has joined together let no man put asunder.
Let it be known that man has an internal enemy. The Divider of Souls, Hearts, Minds, and Relationships. It is the mission of this enemy (Satan) to kill, steal, and destroy anything that is called Good. Everything that God created, He called Good. God created marriage – between one man and one woman. Job assignment of the enemy to all of his demons is to destroy marriages.
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” ~ John 10:10 (NIV)
The Wedding Day is one of the most prepared for special events in the lives of those who seek out to find a lifelong partner. Once found, they become engaged announcing to the public their pre-martial plans. No other lifelong commitment is as defining and holy as marriage. Dreams and plans of being with one partner “until death do us part” is the promise of two so in love that their pledge to each other on that “special day” cannot be shaken —— so they think and believe.
As earth-shattering and incomprehensible as it may seem, the “Ken and Barbie” couple find themselves 8 years later in the throws of divorce court, ending their storybook love journey of courting, careers, and children in an ugly place of alcoholism and an agonizing adulterous affair that tears apart a beautiful beginning of love and hope for a future to grow and age together while raising their beautiful children.
Child Custody Battle from the Pits of Hell. Broken hearts that send rippling currents to every life in close proximity to the “Broken Family”. Who broke the family? What broke the family? It was the Lies and Deception of the Enemy. The whispers into the minds of two who pledged their lives unto each other “for better or worse” that spoke saying, “You don’t love her anymore”….. “There is something better for you out there”…lies, lies, lies… whisper, whisper, whisper……
…When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. ~John 8:44 (NIV)
Family Destroyed. Mission Accomplished! … as the enemy picks through the spoil of shattered pieces of those broken hearts, collecting his Prize of Victory while he laughs into the dark of night, slithering away to find more lives to rattle and ruin.
Life goes on. The fragments of those broken pieces are sharp and raw like frayed nerve endings. Only the Healing Balm of Jesus can begin to ease the pain as He covers and holds those Hurting Hearts in His Hands to make them whole again. It takes time. The hearts mend but the memories are always there.
The aftermath can be messy and mess you up but you can make the Post-War of Divorce something positive so it doesn’t leave you sucking out of a straw from a Pit of Poison and Self-Pity. This is a CHOICE you must make.
God knows. Strength comes from standing up after having the rug ripped out from under you again and again as you go to Battle in Prayer over and over. The battle is real and the battle is spiritual. The attack is from the one you cannot see in the flesh but whom takes his form in the things of this world – his world – to get you to give up and fall.
LOVE is the ONLY thing that will get you through this. It is first of all, the Love that God has for all of us. His Unconditional Love means that He is there for you and will never leave you or your children no matter what you are going through.
For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you”. So that we may boldly say, “The Lord is my helper; I will not fear. What can man do to me?” ~ Hebrews 13:5-6 (NKJV)
Secondly, it is the Love for your children that will keep you fighting to the ends of the earth, knowing that everything that you do is for them while they go through this crazy time as their once stable and secure world crumbles beneath them. Thirdly, it is the Love of your own self that will keep you sane as you navigate through roaring waters that will attempt to drown you and the fiery furnace that tries to burn you to the ground. This is what the enemy does to try to destroy you. Be kind, gentle, and tender to yourself as you listen to the inner voice of God – The Lover of Your Soul – who will save you.
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. ~ Psalm 34:18 (NIV)
Lastly, the most important Love that you must not ever throw away, despite hurt, betrayal, anger, and all of the normal human emotions that you will experience from divorce… Love Your Ex – that’s right! Love them from a place of Compassion, Forgiveness, and Blessing. Is it easy? No! Is it possible? Yes! This does not happen overnight and may take years but this will bring healing to you, your children and hopefully to your former spouse. This is POWERFUL! This is what Jesus came to teach us about regarding “Love one another” in the Kingdom of God. When we can still love them because they don’t know what they do, we are crushing the head of Satan beneath our feet. Ask God to help you in all of this and He will!
“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” ~ 1 Corinthians 13:7 (ESV)
Ex-pressions of Love through prayer and kindness can bring healing and salvation to those ex-spouses who are in need of a touch from God!
Seasons Of Life By Sandy 